what to do with a burnout?

[baldybloke]

I too have an incredibly stressful job with tight deadlines and little room for error. A few years ago it took me near the edge and I found everything totally overwhelming. The trouble is that you hit a brick wall but a brick wall can be dismantled ny chipping away at one brick at a time. Stop looking at the big picture and break it down into manageable chunks. Learn to take pleasure in simple tasks, set goals and reward yourself on acheiving them. Make lists and tick things off it.
Ask yourself the question - is the situation stressfull or is it how I deal with stress. Look for alternative coping strategies. You will come through it as long as you are prepared to think outside the box and change your perception of issues.

[southeast-isher]

Can you ask your doctor to refer you to a counsellor Berti? Talking therapy would be a great start.

[MuddyWitch]

Not sure I can add anything useful that hasn't already been said, but I just wanted you to know you have a friend here who cares.

MW

[Dave]

Berti - Believe me, what ever you are going through will get better. Life has a tendency of dealing us crap when we don't need it (do we ever need it?). I've had my fair share and have to be philosophical during those times, a belief it will get better and it ALWAYS does, don't loose perspective.
If it is over work or over doing it try to drop what you can, lighten your load. If you can't then don't panic, deal with each thing as and when it comes, you'll get through it.

And Boboff - You can think things and not have to write them you know! Stop knocking our Mods, they do a great job!!

[Berti]

thanks for all the inputs :)
the only way for me to cope with this, is to try and focus on positive things.
so: sow seeds, make raised beds, put plants in......read about urban farming/ homesteading, talk to ishers on FB (you know who you are and I love the chats) etc.

in my case, the burnout was caused by the medical profession, meaning, the hospitals/ doctors NOT HELPING ME.
its going on three years now, and its about my hearing.
esp last year I went through hell, in so much pain I was on opiates, and YET STILL no help.
thanks to the manufacturer of my cochleair implant (google it up...) I got surgery last december or otherwise I would have still been suffering.
it was so bad I lay on the sofa all day, barely could get groceries, didn't see anyone (nor did anyone think of visiting me) or socialise etc........too sick and tired.
and it all has been piling up.
so this year started off good, with the outlook for a new (the other was faulty/ defect) implant so I will be able to hear again etc.......now few weeks back the doc told me he "didn't think the implant was faulty at all (it was PROVEN it was, I have it black on white) and that he expected me to get the same problems all over again with a new one (chances are 90% or more sure I will NOT), and that he thought I "won't be able to handle another surgery" based on that he thought I need psychical help.

so I cannot do anything about the stress than try and keep going and keep breathing and focus on things i CAN do, nothing to do with job etc.
if all had gone well, by now I would have done a study and have a job.....

no one can imagine what it must be like to have such a hearing problem almost all your life (since 4 yo) and then after 35 years being able to hear PERFECTLY again, and then to fail and no one doing anything about it....not taking you seriously etc etc etc.

if it all wasn't enough yet, family problems on top of it all, my mom euthanasia last year, having to deal with her stuff too while sick etc....and WHERE were FRIENDS??? or support? or an arm, a listening ear?

so by now i think you can understand why I think of a lot of people being ignorant and having a hard time trusting them huh????
is it a wonder after all, being a single (divorced) mom and having to keep going all the time, and every single thing just being too much on top of all that stress.
I am totally worn out, tired and disappointed.......I hope my contact person can help out and make sure I get surgery this spring........

so thats the story in short.

[niknik]

well you got to keep on at those Drs..........it will be worth the hassle in the long run!

You could get a holiday.. 16 is quite old enough to be left for a few days to fend for herself, and look after the cats, and waterthe plants!

Have alook at the helpex, and woofing sites.. there´s bound top be somewhere real close to where you are, so it would hardly cost anything to get there, and the break would help!

[red]

sounds like you have been through, still going through a horrible time.

don't know what to suggest other than what you are doing, recognising it, deal with any stress you can make go away (but most we just have to take dont we) and focus on the positives

hang in there

[boboff]

And Boboff - You can think things and not have to write them you know! Stop knocking our Mods, they do a great job!!

Really? Would make for a novel forum that approach!

You can also use the PM function on a Forum if you feel a member has stepped out of line, rather than make cheap comments which do not reflect the totallity of what I was saying, and the constructive advice I was offering, and the fact that it was a humerous attempt at trying to garnish support for a fellow isher!

Berti, I hope your surgery comes very soon.

[Stonehead]

BOr its the condition associated with Wizz Kid Financial types who rise to great heights at a young age and then in their early thirties can't cope with the pressure any more associated with "city life" and end up buying a Farm in Devises.

You spying on me? Twenty-plus years in a high-stress, deadline-driven, huge hours career, culminating in a string of trouble-shooting roles sorting out other people's shit. Cue complete burnout. Jacked it in, bought a croft, and now shovel pig shit instead.

Best thing about it? I no longer have to be polite. Everyone knows swineherds are crusty old farts with no social skills.

[baldybloke]

Berti

In the UK burnout is a car thats been set on fire, so I was going suggest a tow truck!

Or its the condition associated with Wizz Kid Financial types who rise to great heights at a young age and then in their early thirties can't cope with the pressure any more associated with "city life" and end up buying a Farm in Devises.

So Beccs was trying to tease out as bit more detail, suspecting that you mean "depressed"

Hope that helps on the definition part.

Please take note Boboff, I am and never have been a whizz kid (except when blasting around on my motorcycle), I also have problems with heights, great or otherwise. A young age is far too far back to remember and so was my early thirties. Pressure of city life,what's that, as I was born and bred and still live in DEVIZES (please kindly note the spelling) and I have no intention of buying a farm.

[oldjerry]

Best thing about it? I no longer have to be polite. Everyone knows swineherds are crusty old farts with no social skills.

You speak for your f------g self mate..........(Farting noise).........(belch).........(more farting noises)......

[Dave]

Boboff - I should have put a wink after my comment, sorry if you were offended, I was trying to make light of the situation.

[boboff]

I wasn't offended, surprised though. That is the trouble with the written word, so easy to miss the point.

Anyway, back to Devizes, I once knew a young lady from there, odd that she had Mamarys which were very unsymetrical.

[baldybloke]

I wasn't offended, surprised though. That is the trouble with the written word, so easy to miss the point.

Anyway, back to Devizes, I once knew a young lady from there, odd that she had Mamarys which were very unsymetrical.

Apparently so, I think she frequents my local.

[Cligereen]

Berti,

I'm not sure how you're feeling now but I know exactly what you mean. I too had a burnout experience. For me it was work related but it impacted on every aspect of my life. I was (eventually) able to recognise the problem after having had one course of antidepressants from my GP.

I knew that I had to find a way to deal with it other than taking medication. I could not leave my job as I have family commitments and bills to pay. Changing jobs is not an option either as if you have a job in Ireland at the moment - you make sure you keep it!

Anyway, I found that a change of outlook helped me deal with it. I still have the same job, still hate it but I feel nearly back to normal. I have written a short blog on how I did it. I've put a link below, so have a look and hopefully it may help.

Look after yourself.

http://hubpages.com/_3mxsltjcamvqv/hub/ ... ce-Burnout