Having an Ish Wedding.

[ElizabethBinary]

Well, since I can't have a Jewish wedding, seeing as my man isn't Jewish, I might as well just have an ish wedding, right?

My fiancee and I have picked a lovely place near his family's farm to get married. It's well priced, in a resort area, by the sea and in a garden. So what I'm trying to say is: most of the details are covered. It's the rest I need to ish.

Main thing: The place we're getting married charges a $200 rental fee for a red carpet and a trellace arc to get married under. Ergh, really? I know it might cost barely any less and I won't get a red carpet (tacky) but I was thinking of making the trellace myself from wood from the scrapyard. After the wedding, my parter and I could put it on the family farm and setup some passionfruits under it. That way when people pick passionfruits off our trellace, we can recall how we got married under it and I made it myself for the wedding. Romantic?

Another thing: I want to hand-make my guests' gifts. The theme of our wedding is musical notes. We picked the song 'Where do I begin' by Gloria Gaynor. We're making a very large metal frame with musical notes from a line from the song to put in our hall with our wedding photos when they're ready, so we were thinking of making metal musical note frames (but only like 4cm high) for the guests. Is that a good idea? He gets the steel free from the scraps behind the workshop he works at, so it would be recycling AND handmade AND free!

What else could I do to make my wedding as well-priced and homegrown at the same time? I'm almost tempting to scrap the whole location wedding and just get married on the family farm! Beer and pizza after !

I swear I had ideas to Ish this more, but I can't think of any now.

(oooo, could I make my own booze for the wedding?? I mean, could I???)

[fruitcake]

theres prob a few ideas in here......http://www.selfsufficientish.com/forum/ ... it=wedding

have fun planning and ishing
and all the best for the day when it arrives

[Green Aura]

I don't know what weddings cost in Australia but here they are astronomical. My own personal thoughts are that anything you can do to cut down the costs, but keep the day special, has got to be good. It's not like they're mutually exclusive anyway. I'm sure that the more you do for yourselves the greater enjoyment you must get out of it, don't you think?

If his parents have a beautiful place somewhere on the farm that is special for the two of you, what better place to get married. And they must have some sort of barn for eating and dancing in? What about asking friends and family to contribute food, drink etc or do the photos or music as wedding presents. And of course you can make your own booze and food.

The gifts sound lovely, and you could make tiny soaps or something like that to go with them, although I have to admit this notion of giving guests gifts slightly bewildering - aren't the gifts supposed to come to you?

On the downside, there will be people who won't like it, but it's your wedding not theirs - as long as your OH is up for it no-one else has a say.

What about making your own dress? And decorations - your plan for a lasting arch sounds wonderful. You could extend that with your own homemade bouquets from flowers, herbs etc that will carry on long after the festivities are over. The ideas are endless and I'm quite excited at the possibilities.

Oh, and if your religion is important to you, try to find ways to incorporate some bits into your ceremony. The best thing about a home grown wedding is that you can put anything you want into it.

[ElizabethBinary]

I would love to have more of a Jewish wedding but the fact is I simply can't. A Rabbi won't marry a non Jew to a Jew. I'm getting some other things incorporated, some traditions I can't live without, but sadly it'll never be a true Jewish wedding. It's worth it, though.

The wedding at the location I have is actually exceptionally well-priced. I don't know if I could actually do it much cheaper on the farm (which actually isn't all that pretty, just sentimental and no, no barn; cattle farm). Ehr... I don't try to talk money, but pretty much I got the venue for both the wedding and reception and 3 course meals for all guests and open bar for under three thousand dollars. Not including everything else, like celebrant and dress and things. Score, yeah?

The dress I want is only simple and I'm having a hard time finding it, so making it might not be so bad after all. Why do dress makers want you to look like a meringue anyway? I don't want to appear like I decided to try on my mother's clothes and shoes and played dressup because it's all pooling at my feet. All I want is simple. Off white. Empire cut. Touches toes, no further. How fricken hard is that??! Apparently, impossible.

I already planned on making my own bouquet.. perhaps I can make all the centrepieces too.

I don't understand the give gifts to guests things either, but there it is, tradition. Which is why I'd like to make it as cheap as possible. The value of my gifts should not outweight theirs! I'm a young newlywed, like I can afford things!!

Blah...I'll check that link now, Thank You!!

[Milims]

If you have someone who knits well you could try this:
http://www.interweave.com/images/images ... g_Gown.pdf

There are a number of other patterns on the site:
http://www.knittingpatterncentral.com/d ... ddings.php

You do know that you MUST post the wedding pics here don't you!

[ElizabethBinary]

If you have someone who knits well you could try this:
http://www.interweave.com/images/images ... g_Gown.pdf

There are a number of other patterns on the site:
http://www.knittingpatterncentral.com/d ... ddings.php

You do know that you MUST post the wedding pics here don't you!

I knit! I knit!! Oooh, but not a fan of that dress. Haha but the awesome thing about custom made is I can do it myself, right?! Change the sleeves, etc. Actually a knit bodice and satin skirt would be pretty, no?

I just remembered that I made a veil for a photoshoot I did and it actually turned out REALLY pretty.



I can make my veil too! Ignore the makeup and terrible hair, I didn't pick it, it was for a magazine. I'd never go that dark. Icky!

You actually want to see photos? Haha, I didn't think anybody ACTUALLY cared about that stuff! :P

[Green Aura]

This was the dress I bought for my wedding - the ivory one!

http://www.rawganique.com/WSD1.htm

[ElizabethBinary]

Hemp!

Smoke the dress after the wedding.

[homegrown]

EB if OH is good at metal work perhaps he could make and arch which could be sold later or put in your garden for a rose to climb.

My wife use to have a wedding design business in Auckland and you would be ammazed at what can make a wedding centerpiece for tables, even a watermelon stuffed with flowers or nibbles such as fruit

or drink and flower centrepiec for OH

[Keaniebean]

I read an article somewher on my internet travels which just used white t shirts as a dress. The idea was that you find a pattern you like and then use a cheap material or even recycled t shirts from charity shops to make the dress yourself. I'll have a look to see if I can find it.

[Keaniebean]

Here it is http://blog.craftzine.com/archive/2009/ ... dress.html

[indy]

I don't have anything to add to the great ideas on here, but hope all your dreams come true for your wedding

[welshmum]

i dont know if you are married or not yet but this is the industry i work in. so, if i caact men be of ant help or you are looking for more ideas feel free to contact me

elle

[Green Aura]

This is a very old thread welshmum and EB hasn't visited us for a while.

But I hope she had a lovely wedding, if it's happened yet.

[welshmum]

I could see it was an old thread but thought that if the wedding was a few weeks away there could still b things we could help with. Wouls like to help out rather than be the newbie that asks loads of questions.