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baldowrie wrote:could you tell that to my boys school who are telling my son he was saint in this country and my boy can't do anything Chirstmasy things as he is an atheist!
I think I would teach your boys to say, "b*gg*r you" to the teachers for being so petty. :lol:
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:wink:

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Part of me knows it's wrong but the mischevious part of me giggles when you see kiddies swearing creatively.
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Cassiepod wrote:For all that it's uncomfortable, I wish we did all tell the truth instead of repvaricate to be nice or tell white lies. It mkes life a lot simpler if you know that auntie didn't like her christmas rpesent cos you know not tog et something similar. It's better for someone to say "I know you're going to hate me but that dress does not suit you" ratehr than try to figure out if they're being nice or honest.
I'm as bad as the next person for trying to avoid hurting people's feelings, but generally people do prefer the truth rather than being misled.

And it makes life easier not having to 'remember' the white lies... if you tell the truth all the time, and have constant beliefs you'll never be 'caught out'
I do agree with you, broadly. When my bf bought my granny some chocolates for Christmas last year, I immediately told him she was diabetic and went out with him to get something else, as while it would have been 'nicer' to say, 'oooh, how lovely', I thought he might be offended if he eventually found out that she was diabetic and I'd lied, or he might carry on buying her chocolates forever and she'd think he was mad....

But that's not to say there aren't occasions when I haven't taken liberties with the truth to make life a little easier.....
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Post: # 77446Post Chickenlady »

But that is just common sense - that is not brutal honesty but passing on information in a sensible way. I really do not agree that it is better to say 'that dress doesn't suit you' because, as has been said before, that is not telling the truth necessarily, but a matter of opinion.

If I bought a dress and really liked it myself, I would not welcome a comment like that!
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Post: # 77454Post Annpan »

What are we talking about here?
1. Stating your opinion in a manner that may be considered offensive, or unwanted.
2. Being asked your opinion and being tactful and truthful.

Constructive critisism is no bad thing, but being rude and giving an unwanted comment isn't honesty, it's nasty.
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