ANGER!

9ball · Post: # 46104Post **9ball** » Fri Jan 12, 2007 3:37 pm

Arrrgh! My meathead neighbours fence has blown over onto my herb garden (admitedly not his fault), so I neatly prop the rotten old fence panel against his fence on his side and put up a temporary bit of chicken wire so my dogs don't go into his garden, then tend to the herbs that are left. I just wander into the garden and the stupid b*****d has taken the panel and dumped it over my garden again, squashing the chicken wire fence and the remaining herbs. AAAAARGH I AM SO ANGRY. Sorry, had to get this off my chest.

Andy Hamilton · Fri Jan 12, 2007 5:14 pm

better it is vented here than on your neighbour, especially if he is bigger than you

I would too be wound up.

Sarahcook · Fri Jan 12, 2007 11:10 pm

Idiot!

Is there any milage in taking said fence panel round to the front door and asking if he's lost anything? or are the neighbours a rough lot (Norwich being what it can be!)

Sarah

Wombat · Post: # 46146Post **Wombat** » Sat Jan 13, 2007 9:12 am

Sorry to hear that 9Ball, I am pretty even tempered but that sort of thing lights a fire under me too!

Yet if go and shoot 'em, YOU'RE in the wrong.......what a world!

Nev

thomas533 · Post: # 46152Post **thomas533** » Sat Jan 13, 2007 2:51 pm

Not sure about the laws where you are but in the US a fence is considered personal property and if he dumped it on your property you could call the police for tresspassing and illegal dumping.

Muddypause · Sat Jan 13, 2007 4:15 pm

Personally, I think going down the litigation route should be right at the bottom of the list (well, perhaps Nev's shooting option is a bit lower). Before you consider anything like calling the police in (they realy won't be impressed with you) or going to law (lawyers love boundary disputes; they are invariably the only ones to gain anything from them), consider some more pragmatic options.

I have no idea what your neighbour is like, or what history exists between you, but don't exclude from your mind that this may be just a minor misunderstanding. Maybe he didn't realise that this was the result of the wind, and thought something else had gone on. Maybe he doesn't realise that the fence is his resposibility (this can sometimes be difficult to establish). Maybe he tried putting the panel back in place, only for the wind to do its stuff again. Maybe all sorts of things...

But really, it is worth trying to preserve good relations with your neighbours, even if it does mean doing a bit more than your share towards this. Having neighbours who war with each other is something to be avoided if at all possible.

Wombat · Post: # 46186Post **Wombat** » Sat Jan 13, 2007 10:40 pm

As usual Muddy makes sense and I agree, but if all else fails, consider my other option......

Nev

red · Post: # 46192Post **red** » Sat Jan 13, 2007 11:12 pm

yeh muddy is spot on.. be careful how you proceed - you will feel a bit daft if it turns out to be your fence...

for a truly depressing experience go to gardenlaw.co.uk and read some of the forums... some people have truly terrible relationships with their neighbours.. and half the time I think it came out of a misunderstanding...

Shirley · Post: # 46193Post **Shirley** » Sat Jan 13, 2007 11:20 pm

Muddypause wrote:But really, it is worth trying to preserve good relations with your neighbours, even if it does mean doing a bit more than your share towards this. Having neighbours who war with each other is something to be avoided if at all possible.

I totally agree... a silly argument many years ago with an ex neighbour has ruined a potentially good friendship for me. Always give the benefit of the doubt unless you are absolutely sure... and then give that benefit again. If you can't talk to your neighbour then drop him a line - as MP says.. it could have been the wind at fault once again.

9ball · Post: # 46285Post **9ball** » Mon Jan 15, 2007 12:19 pm

Hello everyone, you'll be pleased to hear I've calmed down now :) and thanks for your advice.

I hope that he did just try to put it up again badly and the wind blew it back down. I left it until yesterday afternoon for something to happen and finally strung the thing back up again myself. Won't hold for too long but it's something for the time being.

Fingers crossed this will all blow over soon ('scuse the pun

)

Tom

lindysman · Post: # 46301Post **lindysman** » Mon Jan 15, 2007 6:26 pm

Sarahcook wrote:Idiot!

Is there any milage in taking said fence panel round to the front door and asking if he's lost anything? or are the neighbours a rough lot (Norwich being what it can be!)

Sarah

Ooooh, coming from "Kings Lynn" thats a harsh statement about Norwich!!
I went to a pub in Lynn once and Kate Adie was doing the door....