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Just what I needed

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Well, today I took three Aldi fruit trees for a bike ride up to the allotment, where I did all the digging of holes, hammering of stakes, planting, etc., etc. Job well done, even if I do say so myself. :thumbleft: Not long after I finished that, an elderly gent on a plot about 3 up from me started trying to talk to me, which was really awkward because he has speech difficulties, I have hearing difficulties and the wind was blowing his voice away from me. I really didn't feel up to coping with the whole talking thing, and was feeling a little weary and was desperate for a coffee anyway, so I decided it was a good time to leave.

Gets to the gate, and there's a sorry-looking bloke sitting on his bike just about to leave. I'd never seen him before, but it was obvious he was from the allotment so I exchanged a little small talk - which turned into him telling me about his father's recent funeral, marriage breakdown, etc., etc. I listened kindly, for he obviously needed to tell someone his woes, and despite only having one decent ear, I'm actually a pretty good listener. But really, I just wanted to get home and sit down with my cuppa.

Then came the bike ride home - head wind nearly all the way (about a mile!). My little legs were like jelly when I got home. I put my bike away, staggered to the back door, turned the handle and started to walk in. It was locked and I banged my head :shock: :oops: I wouldn't care, but it was me who locked it! I found my keys, tried using the wrong one, then I dropped them, then I couldn't get the right one in the lock. And all the time I was messing about outside the door, there was my little Katie, looking at me through the window with a huge smile on her face and holding out my slippers. Oh, it was such a welcome sight. :sunny: Isn't it lovely when someone pampers you?

BTW, does anyone have any suggestions for communcating with someone who has recently lost the ability to speak? He can understand well, and he knows what he wants to say but he can't make the words. Although I know a little sign language, it's clear that he doesn't. He's trying hard to get his speech back, but in the meantime it's a bit hard going. Anyone have any experience of this and some advice, please?
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is it post-stroke speech loss? - just try to pick out what you can for the moment maybe
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Post: # 144088Post Milims »

Mad as it sounds, try singing. The speech and music centres are in different places in the brain so they work independently, eg someone with a really bad stammer can sing perfectly well. The same happens with people who have had a stroke that affects the right side of the body - their speech centre is often damaged but they can sing. So next time you see him try "singing" good morning to him
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Post: # 144097Post JulieSherris »

Milims wrote: So next time you see him try "singing" good morning to him
Milims - what if there's nothing wrong with his ears?? :mrgreen:

Sorry Rosie - I'm sure you have a lovely voice, really......
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JulieSherris wrote:
Milims wrote: So next time you see him try "singing" good morning to him
Milims - what if there's nothing wrong with his ears?? :mrgreen:

Sorry Rosie - I'm sure you have a lovely voice, really......
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Thanks Milims. I'll try that.
Yes it is a post-stroke thing, but I've heard that he's had several strokes in the past and it's getting more and more difficult to get his voice back. :cry:
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Post: # 144154Post Super.Niki »

Poor guy,

Me and fee met a bloke with exactly the same thing when we were camping. What his friend explained to us was that (although he'd had a few drinks) he could still hear and understand no problem but just found it difficault forming words to reply even though he knew what he wanted to say. The bloke's friend said that all we had to do was speak normally and be patient. He used his hands quite a bit like for numers, forming numbers on the table of they were over 10 and such. So all I can say is listen, be patient and possibly use your hands (not exactly sign language if he doesn't understand it) just gestures. It sounds derogatory (although it's not meant to be at all) but think of it like how dogs learn, a lot by body language and hand gestures (some say when training a dog you should train with both voice commands and hand gestures incase they lose their hearing in later life) although this man hasn't lost his hearing, your increased use of hand gestures and sign-ish language may encourage him to do the same without feeling out-of-place?

Hope that helps :)
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