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Postponing the dream

Post: # 128950Post Loobyloo »

Hey guys, looking for a little advice...

So it looks like our plan to downsize in wiltshire has taking a strange twist. My OH hates his (well paid but extremely stressful) job and is in danger of losing the plot entirely if he stays there. The rent on where we live now is too high for us to stay there if he doesn't earn that much and there are no jobs out there that pay as well that he is qualified to do. We had been hoping to move to Wiltshire in the summer when our current lease is up but now don't think we can wait that long and we don't have the savings to fund a move at the moment.

Sooo, some friends of ours (a couple) have just moved into the house of the blokes mother (she lives in Spain) which is quite big but in Epsom (back out of the countryside :roll: ). They have said that we can live there with them for a few months, the rent would be virtually non existant, I'd be closer to work, OH could get a new job, we could both save, we'd be closer to all our friends and the cat would have some company (they have an old moggy and one of our Kittens was hit by a car recently so the other is pining).

Downsides are that there is only one bathroom and toilet (can see early morning rows!), we'd be back in an area we were glad to get away from just over a year ago, we'd have to put a lot of stuff in storage and two couples living together seems a recipe for disaster.

I just wanted to get opinions for folks who are completely out of the situ.

What do think? Go for it?

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Post: # 128952Post Annpan »

Personally I couldn't live with other people (I never have, and just couldn't see it working) but you seem like a different kind of person and you seem quite up for it, it might work and it could be great fun too.

I would be wary of spending as much money on storage as you might have done if you had a place of your own with space for stuff :?

I don't think your OH should stay in a stressful job but are his qualifications the right ones that will get him another job in the 'current climate'? might be a case of 'out of the fryingpan...'

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Post: # 128975Post Green Aura »

I agree with Annpan the BF needs to have got another job before leaving - current situation being a bit unstable n'all.

If you really want to move in with these people maybe you could get together with them first and discuss all your worries. Maybe they share some of them and will be glad of the opportunity too.

If they foresee no problems at all and are unwilling to talk about yours then run as far as you can in the opposite direction. You'll not be able to live with them for long.
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Post: # 129015Post Rod in Japan »

> They have said that we can live there with them for a few months, the rent would be virtually non existant

How long is a few months? Do you have a sure plan for what to do when that very indefinite period is up?

> Downsides are that there is only one bathroom and toilet (can see early morning rows!)

When me and my boy go to the UK, we stay a few days at my sister's place where the situation is the same (toilet in the bathroom). It is only tolerable because it's never more than 3 days. Of course, if there were a compost heap that nobody minded you peeing on, it would ease matters somewhat...

It sound like a thanks, but no thanks sort of offer to me.

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Post: # 129025Post invisiblepiper »

We had a friend stay before we had kids - it soon became difficult - stupid things such as -he never put the ironing board away - became very significant. And if someone was having a row - then the whole atmosphere was awkward.
A few months - and over the festive season? Don't do it - you risk losing your friends - find a cheaper rental.
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Post: # 129042Post Loobyloo »

Thanks for all the advice folks, we are going round to their's for dinner tonight to discuss things.
Will let you know how it goes!

Timewise we were looking at 4 months. And OH was going to wait until we had moved in with them before addressing his job. Even knowing that that there is possibility of an improvement in things is helping him cope better.

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Post: # 136851Post Loobyloo »

I bow to the superior knowledge of those who warned against moving in with other people!

We are due to move at the weekend and its all gone T*ts up. The couple we were due to move in with split up very publicly on Boxing day and have been on off since then, it turns out the girl is a complete loon (explanation far too lengthy for here) and so we are now more or less homeless.

Luckily some other friends of ours (not a couple!) have a very large lounge that they do not use much so it looks like we will sleeping on their couch and putting all our furniture in storage for a few weeks at least.

So it looks like we either need to find somewhere to live in the area and postpone moving to the country for the foreseeable (we just wouldn't be able to afford to do two moves in one year) or we speed things up and look to move in a month or so to an area where neither of us have jobs.

Advice please? :(

Or a two bedroom cottage with garden in rural Wiltshire/dorset for £650 per month or less? :wink:

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Clara wrote:yard sale......campervan....sunset.

Actually have been thinking that! But we have no savings and don't know how we would support ourselves if we did that.

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Loobyloo wrote:
Clara wrote:yard sale......campervan....sunset.

Actually have been thinking that! But we have no savings and don't know how we would support ourselves if we did that.
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Post: # 136911Post Green Aura »

Sorry to hear things didn't work out. Good job you hadn't got as far as moving in - you may be dodging flying pans :shock: .

What about house-sitting, there must be plenty of empty second homes around that the rich folks would like looking after while they're sunning themselves?
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Post: # 136983Post JulieSherris »

Oh Looby! I am sorry :(

I refrained from answering your original post, because I would have told you NOT to move in with them - I would have been too negative & didn't want to put you off....

I hope you find something soon - have you seen these?

There's even a houseboat to rent for £100 a month - sounds like fun :mrgreen:

Good luck with it though - and if all else fails, come out to us - work is still going well in industry out here & rented properties are available EVERYWHERE..... with land too!

Thinking of you :hugish:
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Best of luck to you, love. Don't forget that clouds often have silver linings, and you might now be led on a new and very exciting adventure in life that you weren't planning......
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Post: # 138085Post Loobyloo »

citizentwiglet wrote:Best of luck to you, love. Don't forget that clouds often have silver linings, and you might now be led on a new and very exciting adventure in life that you weren't planning......
Funny you should say that!, I think that is what's happening. This could well be one of the best things that has happened to us!

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Post: # 138126Post MuddyWitch »

All the luck in the world with your new life, Loobyloo. :hugish:

Maybe you should start a new thread: 101 people whose lives have been changed by ISH?

I may be joining the numbers myself very soon.... :wink:

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