P&P, this may not be right, but can you flip the "not wanting to accept it" to "wanting acceptance" ?
In the last year I have been through things a bit, and one thing that I am sure defines my "over sensitive" nature is the accute need for acceptance and love, bourne from a nasty Mum in my case.... Anyway, when you realise that some people will Never Love you / accept you / Like you even, rather than rally against it, just accept that they don't like you, and it makes no difference at all, but you have to really beleive it makes no difference, thats where stuff like CBT is usefull.
Cliche number one "Accept yourself first, whether others choose to or not"
So really I am saying without any knowledge of you, well stating the obvious really, you are in control, and you yourself hold all the answers, selfish people are the happiest because they don't give a shit for anyone else!
Letting go
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boboff
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http://boboffs.blogspot.co.uk/Millymollymandy wrote:Bloody smilies, always being used. I hate them and they should be banned.
No I won't use a smiley because I've decided to turn into Boboff, as he's turned all nice all of a sudden. Grumble grumble.
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Re: Letting go
I totally agree with you. It's all about acceptance and getting love form others because you son't love yourself enough etc
I know I can't control others, I can only change my attitude and how I view things and believe me im trying!
I've done and am doing CBT. I think it's def the way to go it's just not easy and not always fast. I thought I'd give it a go speaking to them and trying that way but at the end of the day I know it's all my own issues and only I can deal with it.
Doesn't mean it's not tough as I'm sure just about everyone knows
I know I can't control others, I can only change my attitude and how I view things and believe me im trying!
I've done and am doing CBT. I think it's def the way to go it's just not easy and not always fast. I thought I'd give it a go speaking to them and trying that way but at the end of the day I know it's all my own issues and only I can deal with it.
Doesn't mean it's not tough as I'm sure just about everyone knows
Re: Letting go
I love my sister.
We had a great childhood together, but she had a few traumas through adolscene (don’t we all) and she developed ways of coping with life that made her closed as a person.
Who am I to criticise the way that she deals with life: materialism, ego, social status while I found mine at the opposite end of the ‘dealing with life’ scale: self sufficiency, nature, sitting-in-a-warm-kitchen-with-a-mug-of-tea.
The problem is that our two views on life are on totally opposite ends of the spectrum (not unusual for families, as characters form where they find space). I would rather see her once a year give her a big hug and tell her I love her, but not actually speak to her and certainly not get involved with one of her ‘social gatherings’.
Families aren’t meant to get along they are just meant to be there for each other.
We had a great childhood together, but she had a few traumas through adolscene (don’t we all) and she developed ways of coping with life that made her closed as a person.
Who am I to criticise the way that she deals with life: materialism, ego, social status while I found mine at the opposite end of the ‘dealing with life’ scale: self sufficiency, nature, sitting-in-a-warm-kitchen-with-a-mug-of-tea.
The problem is that our two views on life are on totally opposite ends of the spectrum (not unusual for families, as characters form where they find space). I would rather see her once a year give her a big hug and tell her I love her, but not actually speak to her and certainly not get involved with one of her ‘social gatherings’.
Families aren’t meant to get along they are just meant to be there for each other.