I am feeling a little bit and used today. I have been told that we are no longer welcome at my daughter playgroup, as we do not live in the correct postcode area. I could accept that rules are rules, but I have been going there for four years and I feel that I have put quite a bit back into the place. I organised all of their veg and flower beds last year. I grew most of it from scratch at my expenise, then took the children out to plant it all up. At their request I ran cookery courses, showing people how to make baby food, making several meals out of a chicken etc.
Sorry to bore you all, but just felt the need to tell someone.
Nikki
Stay at home Mummy to Orin 8, Trixie 6 and Temogen 4 . Also three Chickens Dottie, Poppy and Dr Mumbo. Three cats called Flossie and Pickle and Lexi.
How come you suddenly aren't in the post code area? Have they changed their area? If so why haven't they discussed it with the group members? I think they sound mean!
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That's really quite unfair, isn't it; although I daresay it is to do with bureaucratic box-ticking than any kind of malice. Mind you, I wonder how many parents have lied about where they live to fit the postcode criteria - if playgroup works anything like the nursery places up here, it's rife with parents apparently living at grandparents' addresses so they can get the children into a certain nursery. One of the mums at our nursery lives 24 miles away - she openly admits that she put her mum's address down because our nursery was better than their local one. It drives me mad, because our nursery WAS oversubscribed last intake, and several local children had to allocated in the next town - OK if you've got a car, but it's a two mile walk each way if you don't.
Anyway, I'm rambling. Have you asked whether it is open for discussion, considering the input you have had? By the sounds of it, you are a valued member of the group and might as well be 'working' there - does that hold no weight at all?
Are there any playgroups / toddler groups locally that you could join instead? Presumably, you have all the necessary CRB checks and that needed - would you have the energy to start your own group up? I think you would be wonderful at it. There's no end to second-hand toys and books available on Freecycle to get you started, and I know loads of people are fed-up of only having the choice of expensive places like Tumbletots and Gymboree to go to, and are hankering after the old-fashioned type of play schemes where children can engage in free play, do crafts etc. Maybe even have an eco stance to it - I'm sure it would be really popular.
Please don't take it to heart - it speaks volumes about them, not about you.
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Nikki, it's a rotten mean and nasty thing. But it could be one of life's challenges - I think these things often happen for a reason, because you are destined for better things. Clouds with silver linings, and all that.
I took my dog to play frisbee. She was useless. I think I need a flatter dog.
thats really naughty .... I think I might be tempted to turn up in the middle of a session with a stack of fairy cakes and say words to the effect that "Here is a leaving gift all enjoy with your tea... Sorry you feel you have to ask me to leave because of postcode and can't take us on our worth to the group. Bye and leave ...
Sorry honey, only just saw this. I don't have much to add apart from a . I'm guessing they're having pressure from somewhere to be squeaky clean re rules etc.
Try not to take it personally, it's more their loss than yours, and find another in the right area.
Maggie
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citizentwiglet wrote:That's really quite unfair, isn't it; although I daresay it is to do with bureaucratic box-ticking than any kind of malice.
Agree 100%, I bet this is it. I'm not surprised you're feeling upset though, so would I! If it's any comfort this is definitely their loss, like everyone else has said. I can't believe they'll ever find someone again who would know how to organise their veg and flower beds and tell them how to get lots of meals out of a chicken. I wish someone would tell me. I daren't even buy one with giblets in!
Poor thing, what a horribly mean thing to do. They shouldn't have been allowed to do this to you without giving you notice though. Our doctors surgery threw us out a few years back after our family had been going to them for over 40 years, but they gave us about 2 months notice not just an 'after today dont come back'.
Mind you these things, whilst pants at the time, often turn out for the best. Perhaps you could be the inspiration for a new nusery that needs you far more than the one your at. think about the new children who would gain from your help and how much better your daughter would be at socialising with more people, if that all makes sense.
Sarah.x
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and used today. I have been told that we are no longer welcome at my daughter playgroup, as we do not live in the correct postcode area. I could accept that rules are rules, but I have been going there for four years and I feel that I have put quite a bit back into the place. I organised all of their veg and flower beds last year. I grew most of it from scratch at my expenise, then took the children out to plant it all up. At their request I ran cookery courses, showing people how to make baby food, making several meals out of a chicken etc. 
