We now live 350 miles or so away from family, so can get away with having a very quiet holiday season. I used to hate the American 'Happy Holidays' all-embracing concept, but I suppose that's what we now celebrate in our own way since we've lit the Hanukkah candles (no little children in the household, so no visits from Hanukkah Harry!) but are also burning a traditional Advent candle, as it harks back to my childhood. And today, weather permitting, we may get round to gathering evergreens too!
We probably won't bother putting up a tree this year (which will appall our grown-up children who go mad decorating trees in early December as a reaction against a very mean mother who wouldn't allow it to go up before Christmas Eve when they were kids!) because our house, which is still being renovated, is just too chaotic.
Our Chrismannukah card and gift giving is becoming simpler as time goes by - next year everyone who matters will get a home-made calendar or some other little home-made gift, while the two grandchildren we were blessed with this year will get something knitted for them.
We have also given up the ritual of buying 'big' presents for each other - we are allowed to spend up to £10 on each other for a 'surprise' gift, but will then choose something together for the house as our 'big' present, a picture perhaps, or something useful that we will both enjoy using such as a quality garden tool or kitchen necessity.
We already know that we love each other and now have the maturity to realise that we don't need to spend lots of money that we don't have to show it!
Whatever you call it and however you choose to celebrate it, we wish you a wonderful one! 