Annoying other half

[yugogypsy]

Craig,

I'll just say this, been there, done that. I wanted to farm, he wanted to keep up to the Joneses. I've been 10 years without him now, found a wonderful guy who loves to garden, loves animals and takes excellent
care of me.

I really think you should take some "personal time" to examine your relationship. It sounds as if you two are poles apart.

It took from 94-99 for me to get free of the abuse I lived with, and it sounds rather like you're also being used if you sacrificed a bread maker for shoes. BTW I have 3 prs of shoes,2 for home and garden, 1 for dress, ditto for boots, plus I have riding boots I bought MYSELF!!

Good Luck

Lois

[craig.r]

wow, i have never laughed so much after reading all of the above in my life. Unfortunately my oh is a little over 4ft and her dad doesn't run a pub . I got the breadmaker in the end with money from xmas and my birthday and i am now saving for a wood burning stove and evacuated tubes. My oh was overweight but has lost nearly 5 stone since going to slimming world. She is starting to come around to my way of thinking but very very slowly. I must admit that because of the kids its never easy to just say thats enough. We want to move to norfolk in about 7 years so i suppose i should just do what i can here and really go for it when we move. I decorated in the end . oh yeah, she is still extremely annoying and does try her best to spend the money we are saving. I have been talking about getting hens for eggs and for the kids but she shows very little interest, she may show interest when i get them

[flyonthewall]

Craig I have an OH who isn't really into all the green stuff either, but he did come around to the allotment and now loves it. If she's been brought up consumerist, it's not an easy habit to break, I was brought up in a more "ish" way but I did go through a consumerist phase when I was younger. I guess the green way of life makes some people panic, think of austerity, and giving up their creature comforts, but it doesn't have to be that way. Maybe try and phase things in so to speak?

[homegrown]

Hi Craig,

Love is one of the greatest resources we have, could I suggest that you suggest to her that if she helps you sort the lot you could sell some of the produce to raise funds for the decorating and when you have enough in the budget that you'll give her and the walls your undivided attention.

My OH collects metal roosters and russian dolls, not usually in our budget so when i have a good run on plant sales I give her $$ towards them.

HG

[Brij]

Craig,

I'll just say this, been there, done that. I wanted to farm, he wanted to keep up to the Joneses. I've been 10 years without him now, found a wonderful guy who loves to garden, loves animals and takes excellent
care of me.

I really think you should take some "personal time" to examine your relationship. It sounds as if you two are poles apart.

It took from 94-99 for me to get free of the abuse I lived with, and it sounds rather like you're also being used if you sacrificed a bread maker for shoes. BTW I have 3 prs of shoes,2 for home and garden, 1 for dress, ditto for boots, plus I have riding boots I bought MYSELF!!

Good Luck

Lois

Lois! You're back!

[Millymollymandy]

Brij, this is an old thread from June!

[Russian Doll]

lol..me and my oh are poles apart...he loves computers and drives me mental with all his parts around the house..like wise i drive him mad with my eco drive at the mo...

however...he does love the homegrown veg and the fact i can shop for 6 on £50 a fortnight as i likewise love the fact that my oh can go to a car boot sale pick up a non working laptop for a fiver and after a good week of him ignoring me and me tripping over parts present me with a full working wireless upto date fance laptop which when we worked it out cost lest than a tenner


what im saying is that sometimes you can be poles aprt in a relationship but sometimes it works...he calms me down when i need it and i gee him up when he needs a boost

[MuddyWitch]

So glad you found your way around your differences. It would be a boring old world if we were all the same.

MW

[Brij]

Brij, this is an old thread from June!

sorry!

[Bonniegirl]

Ok i love my girlfriend very much, but she is not interested in anything green apart from money. I try to get her to recycle but she can't be bothered. I bought a solar phone charger to save us money but she can't be bothered to use it. I am trying my hardest to be as self sufficient as we can with fruit and veg from my allotment but i get no help what so ever. I started making yoghurt because she spends a fortune on it, she won't touch it even though its gorgeous. I wanted a good bread maker but instead she ended up with 3 new pair of shoes .

I have a question.

I have an allotment which is full of fruit and veg
Do you think its unreasonable that i would spend time sorting my allotment rather than do a bit of decorating ( which we can't afford to buy the stuff needed anyway)?

Recycle her!
You've got to like someone too, it's not always about love. If you have any chance of a future together to must have some common ground and interests or you'll just drift apart. Sorry if I've repaeated what's already been said.

[Wombat]

Some years ago I had a conversation with Mrs Wombat where she made it clear that she was happy for me to do the green stuff but did not want to be involved herself. Thankfully she has had a complete turn around and is now getting involved boots and all. So don't give up hope!

Nev

[MKG]

Ah - I knew I'd seen the book somewhere!

"How to tame wild wombats with simple psychology"

Author: Mrs. Wombat.

Clever girl!

Mike

[Wombat]

No way Mike..............I'm still wild!

Well, wild at heart any way........

Nev