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If your child seems bored at home is it a good idea to put him in nursery for a few hours a week?

DS (2.5yo) seems bored at times.
I'm torn between giving in to the pressure from others and putting him in nursery so that 'he learns how to be with others' and 'has fun' or teaching him at home and perhaps learning to deal with one's own boredom is also an important life skill?

I want to home ed but there is always a little voice in my head that says that DS is very active and needs school etc etc.

Also does anyone know where the Home Ed group in North Wales (Caernarfon area) meets or who to contact please?

why not try a playgroup? even just a couple of mornings a week- then you can see how comfortable you are with the idea before it's too late...

I first put ds1 in nursery out of necessity as I had to return to work. He took ages to stop crying when I dropped him off, but enjoyed it and settled well according to staff (having seen the other sideofthis I do believe them). He thrived on the social interaction with other children even tho he is a freaky loner, and to be honest he does things there that I am capable of doing but do not have the energy to do what with lack of sleep, need to get laundry done etc.
Ds2 started last week for a couple of mornings, again as i am going out to work, and gave me not a second glance!
They will get every cold going and chicken pox etc, but they would get that at school, and do I love them any less? No. Do they get reduced quality time with me? I think they get better time, as I am rejuvenated, perversly from looking after other children my enthusiasm for my own is boosted.
It has to be your own decision, but I find occasional sessions can be rewarding not only for the child but to give yourself a chance to recharge your batteries. If you get all the beds changed a babygros washed during this time then that's up to you, if you sleep and drink coffee in this time that's fine too. Even if you go round the grocers without having to worry that every carrot and apple will have been sampled that's fine too. Don't stress too much - the staff do not beat the children (or shouldn't!) and the activities and social interaction will be enjoyable.
If I had to spend 20 hours of the day with the dh I would kill him, so needing a break from th ekids is not suprising you know!

My second little girl really didn't want to be away from me and I was bullied by my parents to send her to a playgroup, she HATED it so after 4 weeks I stopped taking her. About 3 months later sheasked if she could get some new friends!! We talked about it and looked around for a childcare provider that I felt would be more suitable.
We had 4 trial sessions and she settled really well. THey do gardening, visit he firestation, have visitors in, etc and she has made a couple of little friends.
My message is if they are ready/need it, it may be better just find a place that fulfills your life beliefs etc. Have a look around or try a toddler group with aplaygroup attached. Some are really well organised with activities for the children to do while you have achat with other mums etc!

our local surestart centre runs a prepapration for playgroup class, the kids go in one room, the mums in another and if your child cries you can be on hand to comfort, but the idea is to get them sued to being away from you... without actually being away from you. hope that made sense.

mrsflibble wrote:our local surestart centre runs a prepapration for playgroup class, the kids go in one room, the mums in another and if your child cries you can be on hand to comfort, but the idea is to get them sued to being away from you... without actually being away from you. hope that made sense.

I dunno - the litigious culture is really getting out of hand if kids are suing parents over separation anxiety....

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hi, you mentioned contact groups for HE in North Wales. I know of two yahoo groups (littles_1s_Wales and HE Cymru) which both have postings about get togethers in North Wales if thats of any help to you. I home ed my son who is 4 and a half, he is very sociable and I used to worry so much about him becoming bored and isolated but after doing a bit of research I found that there are plenty of opportunities for him to socialise, there is literally a group meeting somewhere every day that we could attend if we wanted. HE seems to be growing rapidly with new families joining every week or so it seems at the moment so I think that the socialising issue will become less of a worry as time goes on.
I hope some of this helps,
BWs, Sarah

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I apologise it was a cheap shot. But I'm a cheap kind of guy.

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Have you tried joining your local Education Otherwise forum? You can join EO and get lots of info and benefits such as discounts off days out, a membership card etc but you can also just join their forums (the main one and also one for each area) online, for free and without having to pay to join EO itself. From there you will find info on other groups in your area.

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Also does anyone know where the Home Ed group in North Wales (Caernarfon area) meets or who to contact please?

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If I had a pound for everytime I was told,when are the girls going to start nursery then? I would be a rich lady
I have leanings towards home education although worries on my own*academic* abilities,however whether HE pans out or not,I have no plans for the smalls to attend a school before they are5.I will never say never,but I am 99% sure
when I tell people this I get incredulous gasps,you cant do that!!!
they wont know the other children
they wont be used to queueing up
they wont be used to being told what to do
they wont be used to being asked to sit still & concentrate



I could go on
ermmm they will make friends with the other children,I cannot believe that every single other child will know every other they are used to queueing up & waiting,they are twins! they have to take turns all the time they are darn well used to be told & asked what to do,I took them to the WI on Friday & they sat quite as poppets colouring in comics,I was fielding off remarks how they hadnt seen such well behaved smalls in years
They are not perfect,they are 2 & 1/2! but they have skills that I have seen lacking in older kids so attending playschool,pre school whatever they call it isnt the answer or the solution.

I would say dont listen to others,listen to your gut feeling,sometimes I have days where I would sell my soul for an hour on my own but thats y problem not the girls?if that makes sense?

I go to a toddler group,Plague Group I call it some weeks,other times I say to the smalls do you want to go to play group & they say nooo ,I say do you want to go to the garden centre & have a cup of tea! & they shout YES!!!

I find sometimes a routine helps,ie go to town on Monday,library on Tues,playgroup weds,at home thurs,visit a pal fri etc helps but then sometimes I throw it in the air & we do what we like too

isn't it always stunning how many people feel its perfectly alright to voice their opinion on how you should bring up your kids! perfect strangers will tell you what they think...
and the idea.. that things like manners.. learning to take turns, etc etc could *only* be taught by a teacher... ack... dont start me....