Ridiculous things you do to keep the peace

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Ridiculous things you do to keep the peace

Post: # 135152Post Rosendula
Mon Dec 22, 2008 11:56 am

Inspired by this thread
Just wondering what things you do/have done which are ridiculous but necessary to keep the peace with someone.

My example (which we don't have to do any more, thankfully) when I was in contact with my parents :bootyshake: , I instructed my teenagers that if they came home from school and my parents were round they had to say 'hello' to their Grandad separately from everyone else. So even though they said 'hello' as they came through the door, intending it to address everyone, they had to then say 'hello, Grandad', otherwise he sulked and called them ignorant and accused them of not talking to him.
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Post: # 135183Post mrsflibble
Mon Dec 22, 2008 6:32 pm

if my mum sounds like she's in an argumentative mood, I cut convesations short and ring her back the next day.
oh how I love my tea, tea in the afternoon. I can't do without it, and I think I'll have another cup very
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Post: # 135186Post snapdragon
Mon Dec 22, 2008 7:19 pm

Telling my Mum some really bad news about someone else always re-directed her train of thought when she was feeling down
Unfortunately I still haven't found the knack with OH to stop the b!**$^ whingeing about his work colleagues
Spent many years getting between father and sons to avoid conflict and now the boys think their Dad is perfect :roll:

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Post: # 135205Post Thomzo
Mon Dec 22, 2008 10:06 pm

Putting on 6 stone in weight because the ex used to fly into a rage/sulk if I didn't eat all the crap food he put in front of me. Then he had the cheek to run off with someone fatter than me! :angryfire:

More stupid than ridiculous.

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Post: # 135218Post linzibean
Mon Dec 22, 2008 11:30 pm

I just don't talk to my parents, I find it's the easiest way to keep the peace!!
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Post: # 135228Post Millymollymandy
Tue Dec 23, 2008 7:37 am

I bite my tongue. I know what subjects are taboo when I am with my mother (the Prince Charles v. Princess Diana 'debate' and fox hunting the main ones that spring to mind!) and when I am with my mother in law (Maggie Thatcher and 'foreigners' i.e. anyone with a darker skin than us or a funny accent :roll: ). You never win with old people and it's just not worth it. :roll: :roll: :roll:
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Post: # 135237Post jim
Tue Dec 23, 2008 10:37 am

My mum had a saying, "Anything for a quiet life ....... means you won't get one."
Just a thought .....

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Post: # 135256Post Annpan
Tue Dec 23, 2008 1:42 pm

I have been known to shop for a christmas gift for my mother with the sole proviso 'it will not hurt me if she throws it at me' She has been known to throw a variety of things at whoever is there at the time... :roll: Looking forward to our big family get-together on boxing day :banghead:
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Post: # 135276Post The Riff-Raff Element
Tue Dec 23, 2008 7:38 pm

I resist talking politics with one MIL (I have two...) because it always ended up getting personal. So to keep the peace I stopped rising to the bait she trailed.

Now she has started complaining because it seems that these knock-you-down-and-drag-you-out fights were one of the things she enjoyed most about my visits. So, in order to keep the peace I've got to argue with my MIL. :mrgreen:

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Post: # 135306Post JulieSherris
Tue Dec 23, 2008 11:39 pm

Where do I start with mine?

Right.... I make up the guest bed for MIL with a top sheet, cos NOT having one is SO common....
Ironing said sheets & pillow cases & duvet cover to within an inch of their lives..........
Buy a fresh lemon for her tea.... then bite my lip when she puts it on her saucer to use for next time.....

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Post: # 135309Post Anne A
Wed Dec 24, 2008 1:18 am

Parents, Putting the heating on, rather than offering blankets like I do for friends, Turning the telly on and leaving it on, boiling the kettle every time, not using the flask, as its "not fresh"
Niece, Buy *gulp* white sliced bread, I don't see her often enough and its just not worth her starving for the weekend when she stays.
Friends, not making them use wee wipes :lol:

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Post: # 135317Post Ellendra
Wed Dec 24, 2008 2:14 am

The only "problem person" in my life is my dad. Unfortunately, due to health problems I've been stuck living with my parents longer than I ever intended to. Most of the time I just hide in my room. I have a computer with internet, oodles of houseplants, the only things I need to come out for are food, water, and loo.

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Post: # 135343Post Graye
Wed Dec 24, 2008 10:41 am

Why is it always MILs who need to be kid-gloved I wonder?

My first one was the original snob and looked down on our family because my Dad worked in a factory (irrespective of the fact that it was HIS factory!) and my Mom was a career civil servant who had always worked.

She kept cheap sherry in a Croft Original bottle ( one of my "keeping the peace" moves was to accept when she offered me one and comment on how nice it was) and always went shopping with an M & S food market shopping bag in case she met any of her friends.

But her worst trait was to eye up each and every Xmas present to see who she could give it away to the following year. I remember my SIL once giving her a pedal bin for Xmas with a "let's see her give THAT away" under her breath to me.

I suppose my most successful (but wimpish) "peace keeping" was to ALWAYS agree with what she said, be it about politics, the Royal family, Ascot (!) etc. It got to be a way of life and my ex used to sit and squirm whenever I did it. Fortunately she didn't live very close so it wasn't too often but my son often used to comment on the way home that he knew I didn't really think like that... fortunately he never commented whilst we were there but when I think about it, what a way for him to learn about such stuff!
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Post: # 135467Post Sally Jane
Fri Dec 26, 2008 12:01 pm

Ellendra wrote:The only "problem person" in my life is my dad. Unfortunately, due to health problems I've been stuck living with my parents longer than I ever intended to. Most of the time I just hide in my room. I have a computer with internet, oodles of houseplants, the only things I need to come out for are food, water, and loo.
Ellendra, I am so sorry to read about your curent circumstances and health problems.
I know that living with my parents again would be my worst nightmare, and I would almost certainly end up drinking alcoholically to cope.
I truly hope that things improve for you in the coming year.

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Post: # 135481Post mrsflibble
Fri Dec 26, 2008 2:12 pm

Graye wrote:Why is it always MILs who need to be kid-gloved I wonder?

not true in my case, she's about the only person I dont have to mind my p's and q's with lol!!
oh how I love my tea, tea in the afternoon. I can't do without it, and I think I'll have another cup very
ve-he-he-he-heryyyyyyy soooooooooooon!!!!

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