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annoying neighbours

Post: # 190881Post crowsashes »

sorry i need to rant about them. just really winding me up at the moment.

first it was a second handrail, thats fine, as long as i can get my pram down the steps and the huge wheelie bins when its put in. ( we share a path btw)
council/social services peeps said no its pointless, a pair of handrails to make getting up and down the steps easier need to be close together. to make room for the bins to be taken down means they'll be too far apart meaning they are pointless, a nuisance and a waste of funds.

the neighbours said oh take your bins down the grass, they have assisted collection so they've never tried taking a monster wheelie bin down a 45 degree slope :angryfire: i had to do it when they decided the steps needed cement repairs on bin day ( it could have waited untill the following day) and we cant have them at the bottom of the steps because theyll be on the pavement not the garden.

then there was the grass clippings. had a gardener come to cut my front lawn because it had grown rampant :oops: ( he did a damn good job btw :thumbright: )
and they've moaned not because the garden was a state but because in the wind a few grass cuttings ended up on there weed patch :angryfire: ( it is just a patch of weeds) complaing 'oh there'll be so many weeds now all those seeds and roots will sprout into a weed jungle ' not their words btw but you get the gist.

anywhos i pretty much ignored it as i was too busy planting some stuff in the freshly cleared beds. and they start chucking slug pellets here there and everywhere. i asked them not to because just feet from our doorstep is a protected woodland, they moaned about the slugs an oh we have to kill em now etc etc. ive already found a couple of dead birds in my garden and we do have hedgehogs sometimes. ive explained this to them but they dont care :banghead: not to mention the fact my little one likes to play in the dirt and will see these blue/green things as something new to play with :angryfire:

now theres the new security light. got nothing against them but its right out front, pointed straight across the top of the shared path bright enough to stun anything and goes on and off 10 plus times a night because of their bloody cat that i chase out my garden for £$%^& right there on the lawn! if i had a dog that did that id bloody well be forced to clean it up :angryfire: its right next to my window and even with thick curtains it still disrupts my sleep. its like someone turning the light on in my room

then they try to tell me you cant grow anything there, you shouldnt grow that, try to tell me to cut down MY trees then try and get the council to cut down MY trees. cut my hedge down that i want to grow an extra foot ( to 4 ft for a bit more privacy ie if there sat in there lounge they can see bugger all)
im tempted to get a whacking 6 ft fence and stick that up.

grrr!!!!!

ok thats better.

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Post: # 190892Post seasidegirl »

Sounds like a nightmare. Glad it helped to get it off your chest.

Just wondering if you could make one of the problems work for you.
Do they create much rubbish your neighbours? Would there be room for your rubbish in their (assisted collection) bin?

If not then I think the council should give you assisted collection if the handrail blocks your movement of it.

Do they actually grow anything? Or just kill slugs?

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crowsashes wrote: anywhos i pretty much ignored it as i was too busy planting some stuff in the freshly cleared beds. and they start chucking slug pellets here there and everywhere. i asked them not to because just feet from our doorstep is a protected woodland, they moaned about the slugs an oh we have to kill em now etc etc. ive already found a couple of dead birds in my garden and we do have hedgehogs sometimes. ive explained this to them but they dont care :banghead: not to mention the fact my little one likes to play in the dirt and will see these blue/green things as something new to play with :angryfire:
I don't know, but can the RSPCA or someone do anything about this? I thought slug pellets had to be other-wildlife friendly, or am I being naive? Probably :roll:

Also, please make sure you show your children the pellets when you tell them not to play with them. When my son was little we lived in a rough area and I told him about syringes and what they look like and that he should never touch them. Then one day he came home crying because he'd picked something up and his friends said it's a druggy needle and he's going to die now. It turned out my description of a syringe wasn't good enough and he didn't know what he was picking up. (He was fine, BTW, and we moved soon after)
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Post: # 190933Post prison break fan »

Poor you, it sounds awful! It really is the "little" thing neighbours do that annoy you isn't it. One side of me cuts my hedge, which might seem a neighbourly thing to do, but I like it high! The other side park across my driveway! Just because my car is in the drive, doesn't mean I'm not going out later! Like you, feel better now!! pbf.

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Post: # 190938Post MKG »

There are laws and stuff, you know.

Your neighbour is allowed to trim your hedge on their side (but the trimmings are your property). They are NOT allowed to determine its height unless you have transgressed the local byelaw on boundary heights. That byelaw WILL exist, and the limits (for common lines of sight) are usually between 4 and 6 feet AFAIK. If they cut it down without your consent, it amounts to criminal damage.

There are certainly regulations governing security lighting, the main gist of which is that any such lighting must not be intrusive - basically, those lights should not shine directly into YOUR window. Your neighbours can be forced to redirect them, otherwise they are committing a nuisance.

If you have shared access, that means that all concerned have equal rights over that access. They would not be allowed to install anything which would alter your normal access (and, if they did, you would be completely within your rights to remove any obstruction).

Have you thought about a hitman :lol: ?

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We used to live in a house that had a private driveway but there was a shared access road to the four houses, and the neighbours on the end never used to tell their visitors not to park in the access road. Got so sick and tired of knocking on their door to ask their visitors to move their car so I could get on and/or off my drive. They used to give me filthy looks as though it was my fault I was distrubing their nice evening with friends rather than them seeing the incovenience they were causing me.

Anyway....... hmmm - a bit concerned how much that still makes me mad even though it was years ago....... but there are restrictions on shared access and it may be necessary to follow these up with the appropriate bodies, as well as the light issue. Good luck - and remember to tap away like mad on the keyboard to rant - it does seem to help - although not sure my poor laptop can keep up with the abuse.
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Post: # 190962Post Big Al »

theabsinthefairy wrote:We used to live in a house that had a private driveway but there was a shared access road to the four houses, and the neighbours on the end never used to tell their visitors not to park in the access road. Got so sick and tired of knocking on their door to ask their visitors to move their car so I could get on and/or off my drive. They used to give me filthy looks as though it was my fault I was distrubing their nice evening with friends rather than them seeing the incovenience they were causing me.
This used to happen to me and after continually having to ask them to move their car, likewse the mucky looks, I decided that I needed to go out at all sorts of hours of the day and night...... about 40 minutes after they went to bed worked well.... but so does 2 am, 3 am, 4am :lol:

They continued, out of stupidity not mallice to park across my drive so one day I jacked up the car (pre locking nuts) and took their wheels off, let the tyres down and put the wheels in the garden pond.....funnily they started to look where they were parking after that :?
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Post: # 190967Post crowsashes »

:cheers: the light burnt out! :lol: they were moaning this morning about the bulb going again, supposedly its been doing it every week or so. now they are giving up on it.

thank you for the legal advice, if the hedge gets cut down again, ill defo be complaining.

a guy from the council came today, they are not putting the rail in, because i dont want it ( its going to be on my garden) and its not practical :cheers:


right now i just have to see if they chill, or move as the council guy said they'd have to move if they cant manage the steps.

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Post: # 190989Post Rosendula »

Ooh quick, pour some oil on the steps :evil4:



:oops: Did I really just say that?
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Post: # 191002Post JulieSherris »

Thinking back to when we were in Blackpool, (and it's only 2 & 1/2 yrs ago!) I can't for the life of me remember how we coped with having neighbours :shock:
The adjoining house to us was divided into 3 flats - one on each floor, so wherever we were on one side of our house there was noise through the walls...ok, if I went up to the granny flat where my youngest lived, it was usually her, as she was going out with 'the boy next door'..... still together, they now live in a house & complain about their neighbours!!

A number of properties along the road were either B & B's or holiday flats - quite pleasant in the winter when they were empty, but a nightmare in the summer with the stag weekenders coming back at 3, 4, 5am..... :roll:
I can remember being woken up by a group of lads one night, so came down, had coffee & a half hour internet browse... was just going back to bed when I saw a girl acting a bit 'odd' by a car outside... so yep, at 4.15am, I went out to ask her what she was up to.... she got very flustered & disappeared up the alley opposite.
When I looked further, there was sugar all around in the gutter by the petrol cap!
Anyway, the cops were called & it turned out that she was the 'girlfriend' of a lad who had come from Newcastle for a stag weekend & she was jealous, so she followed him..... she had put a whole bag of sugar down the petrol tank! :shock:
So instead of going home that morning, ( a Sunday) we got a friendly garage fellow to take the tank off & clean it so they could finally get back on the road at 7pm-ish.
Needless to say, the bunny-boiler girlfiend was dumped & several months later we all met once again in court - she only got community service though! :lol:

Neighbours? Give me a field of cows any day :cheers:
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Post: # 191008Post seasidegirl »

Years ago I had a young woman living nearby who kept shouting abuse over the fence or out of the window at my son when he was playing in the garden. She was twenty and my son was 2.

It was very upsetting because she had access through my garden as we were on the end of a terrace and the path ran next to my house.
I phoned the police one day, was a little naive then, and they went to have a word with her about it. With hindsight what I should have done was let my husband go around and threaten her with bodily harm but I didn't like that idea.

Anyway when I went out she got a pair of pliers and cut my telephone cable on the outside of my house. When we got it repaired (had to pay BT) she cut it again. And twice again. She also ordered us delivery of a late night pizza and a late night taxi. I later learned that when one boyfriend had dumped her she had sent a HEARSE to collect his mother's body. The mother opened the door to the funeral company.

Obviously she was very disturbed.

We got it resolved eventually by the Housing Association who went to see her (alcoholic) father and threatened them with eviction. Perhaps she didn't want to leave the house where she had found her mother hanging (really).

She never played up again after that but it didn't matter to me, i couldn't enjoy the garden, these people overlooked us and had access through it, so we moved.

We've got lovely neighbours where we live now but there is always just one thing... They have three leylandii in the garden that take my late afternoon and evening sun. They are as tall as two houses.
Other people have asked them to maintain their garden but they won't so I'm going to try and live with the trees. Maybe.
We are putting the shed there with won't need light.

Sorry such a long story but my message is to try and focus on the good side of your neighbours. If they are quiet and clean there is a lot to be thankful.

You never know, they might move out and whoever replaces them could be a lot worse.

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Post: # 191044Post theabsinthefairy »

JulieSherris wrote:
Neighbours? Give me a field of cows any day :cheers:

Normally I would agree with you but I am absolutely shattered today because I was up at 1.30 am, chasing five 12week old calves out of my garden before they could trash the poly and the greenhouse.

The little blighters had nipped under the feeder in the barn and gone on a rampage whilst their mummies mooooooooo-ed like mad from the barn. It was that mooing that woke me up, because my completely useless dog slept through all the rumpus.
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Post: # 191132Post herbalholly »

Heya Seasidegirl, if the leylandii negatively affects your reasonable enjoyment of your property and or garden then the owners have a responsibility to cut them down to a reasonable size provided they are in a hedge formation rather than just one on its own or two but spaced out... The 'rules' (this stuff can be taken to the local council and they can enforce the hedge trimming) in our area say that they can be cut down to 2 meters tall - which might mean that you can have your afternoon and evening sun back. We recently went to see our neighbour about his ridiculously tall (maybe 7 meters) leylandii and we said that we were happy to cut the trees if he had no objections - a compromise really as he should be the one paying for the work to be done but we don't mind as my sister is a tree surgeon so I just have to provide a good lunch on tree felling day...
Hope you can resolve the problem - it's so crappy not getting all the precious sunshine that's available.

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